A few months back I wrote I long post with loads of information, emotional stuff and since we're looking after our mental health I thought I'd share things with you starting with this section on my successful blog post 'Cheese is not you're enemy....... But socks are.' so sit back, pull up a comphy toad stool and enjoy and remember, it's ok to cry. 🤗
It's ok to cry section from 'Cheese is not your enemy' post.
I was going to leave this section out, but then I thought, I want you to know it's ok to cry. So many people feel embarrassed about it, they want to hide away. Now sometimes it's good to lock yourself in your room and have a private cry but trust me, having a cry with someone there with you is a wonderful feeling. I have hugged lots of people I know and love when they need a good cry. Having a pair of arms go around you tightly while you break down can make you feel safe. It's a moment your frail and vulnerable and those arms, no matter who they are can keep you together and feel safe from The world around you. I felt that way when My Grandpa hugged me, and I've been told I'm a great hugger....unless you ask my Nana then I break your ribs. I know we can't hug our loved ones right now and that's hard, I'm a hugger and I miss hugging my best friends, my family.
Life is hard enough without this Corona Virus and while we're doing our best as a nation, we need to remember ourselves.
I do believe having a cry is healthy for you, I'm no doctor you understand but it just feels like a release and once I've dried my face and blown my snotty nose, I feel better not just in my mind but my heart. Call me soppy if you like but it really does.
Here's my example.
November 4 would have been my Grandpa's birthday, he died and it hits me that I can't make that phone call, no matter how short it was. He was my father figure and hero, he told me how life works and to work hard at everything you do. All the things a real dad did. So yes, his death hit me and it hit me hard.
Three days after he died I was helping a patient, yes I was out of the laboratory, and half way through the radio played a song, 'Dance with my Father' Luthor Van Dross and I couldn't help it, I excused myself and cried on the steps at work. I couldn't listen to that song for months after. Now I realised that song made me cry because I always had a vision that one day I would get married, he would walk me down the aisle and we had that father and daughter dance, that's what I always wanted. But hearing that song just clicked something in my brain and out they came.
So back to this year November 4, I took my boy to school and came home trying to keep my mind off the day, but I just couldn't focus and there was a lump in my chest I couldn't shift. So I went to my room, pulled up that song, picked up my childhood Teddy, (yes 34 and I still have my Teddy 🐻 love me, love my Teddy.) I let it play and once the chorus hit, the tears fell. Yes I'm not shamed, I full on cried into poor Teddy but I felt so much better after. It felt like a release, the feeling in my chest was gone and my mind was clearer. I also had visions of my Grandpa tell me to stop being soppy in his own way and that made me smile.
Things can get on top of us and life is hard, there's so much to contend with and while some of us are parents and have to put them first, we do need time to take care of ourselves. After all, if I'm not well or at 100% who will take care of my boy?
So if you feel like crying do it, don't be ashamed. If you want to talk to someone about how you feel, do it, even if you write it down. On Twitter I have my messages open so if you ever want a chat drop me a hello, I'm a pretty good listener and I always have a joke or two.... Other than that I'm sure I can find a Giff that will make you grin.
So here's the links to two really good books I love to read, I'm a bit of a romantic and The Princess Bride is my Favourite book while Big Fish just captures my heart.
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Big-Fish-Daniel-Wallace/dp/147117302X/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=Big+fish+book&qid=1604928834&sr=8-1
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Princess-Bride-William-Goldman/dp/0747545189/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=The+Princess+Bride+book&qid=1604933666&quartzVehicle=6-132&replacementKeywords=the+bride+book&sr=8-2
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